You know that familiar flicker of irritation you feel when you read the same person ranting about her same boring life, or her stupid job, or whatever on Facebook for the billionth time? I know I have. I have recently cleaned up my Facebook friends, and what a relief it has been. Yes, it's still in the hundreds, but not in the ridiculous thousands where everybody knows my bizniz. I am already writing about my beauty secrets in public and tweet about my existence like I've nobody to talk to, I don't need the whole world clued in on the rest of my life.
Here's my elimination process if you'd like to clean your online existence up as well:
I started with Facebook for obvious reasons - I spend a lot of time there, and accumulatively over the years, a lot of things are on there. Right from the start when I added people or vice versa, I put them in groups - friends from high school, from college, work colleges, people I barely knew, people I knew from this blog, etc, which was a good place to start. I asked myself these questions:
- Have I interacted with this person online or in person in the last year?
- What are the likelihood of our interaction: are we in the same industry, do we hang out in the same social circles?
- Will I miss his/ her Facebook posts?
- Is he/ she hot and will I regret deleting his/her from my Facebook, therefore all access to said-photos will be revoked? [Don't lie, you stalk hot friends' FB too]
People I dated have been deleted [save for one, cos' we're on good terms], friends from primary school have mostly been removed, and a lot of high school and college friends are left on 'restricted profile'. In that process, I've not halved, but I've ended up with one third of the "friends" I started out with. "Family" has been deleted and blocked (if you've followed my blog long enough, you'd get what I mean by "family"). People I still almost have to be friends with but whose posts are annoying have had their feeds unsubscribed.
I cannot tell you how enjoyable it is to be able to look through my Newsfeed and not get annoyed/ pissed off/ wanttohitsomebody from the stupidity.
My Instagram account was public for a long time until Instagram was available online and a ton of spam accounts came about. I didn't want my followers to be fake followers, and I wanted to know who was following me, so I made it private. That way, I know which photos are popular because people like them, not because of hashtags. I also didn't like that anybody could see my Instagram photos on the web. It's also one of the social media experiments I enjoy shoving my fists into.
Twitter is free reign most of the time, except for the fact that I keep the number of people I follow low. I seek out information and people relevant in my life, and I like to keep it that way, instead of following everything. I know a lot of people do it differently - adding as many people as possible so their feed is always updated/ adding people who add you back, adding people and keeping them in groups, etc. I'm very selective with whom I follow, and I'm always up for suggestions. Chances are though, if you tweet me and ask 'why aren't you following me?', I would probably never. Too needy, girl, too needy. ;o)
What about you? Do you think your social media life is ready for a clean-up?